I Censor My Queerness Around My Straight Friends — Femsplain
“I have almost exclusively dated men due to, at least in part, my deep-rooted fear of being open about my sexuality in any setting that doesn’t involve alcohol.
“The vast majority of my friends, particularly at college in Southern California and in my current city of New York, are straight women. Each of my friends is a warm, welcoming human being, but all the women have experienced unwanted sexual attention in some way and many, if not most, have become more cautious towards men as a result — a reasonable and inevitable response to the implicit and explicit sexualization they experience every day. As a rape survivor, I know this apprehension well. But at the same time, I am constantly afraid that my potential for attraction towards a woman will scare her out of being my friend.”
“Oh, I had no idea, you don’t seem queer.” ¶ This is the response I have received time after time when I mention my queerness. It’s never uttered with mal…
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