lareviewofbooks: Polyamory. Nearly five years later, the term…

lareviewofbooks:

Polyamory. Nearly five years later, the term is far more common than it was when I first heard it: case in point, this likely isn’t the first time you’re seeing it in print. But despite greater visibility, the meaning of that word and the culture that accompanies it remains confusing to most people, even threatening: a phrase for pretty, irresponsible youngsters, or a kinder term for child bride cults; a cop-out for the forever immature, or the latest iteration of free love dressed up in a new, pseudo-intellectual veneer.

Even for the genuinely curious — like I was, back then — it’s difficult to get a handle on what precisely “polyamory” means, beyond it involving relationships in the absence of traditional fidelity, beyond it being antithetical to everything we’re taught about love.

The kinds of love do we fall into: Polyamory in theory and practice.

-Emmett Rensin